Beauty By Alchemy

Magnanni for Neiman Marcus
I wore these on Saturday night with jeans and a tuxedo jacket. And, as I was walking home and the sun was coming up, I realized they were more purple than red. I’m so in love with them…
Jun 20

Magnanni for Neiman Marcus

I wore these on Saturday night with jeans and a tuxedo jacket. And, as I was walking home and the sun was coming up, I realized they were more purple than red. I’m so in love with them…

We were walking through SoHo (London’s gayest part of town) on our way to #Ku Bar after leaving #Thirst when a group of young guys spotted us walking through a crowd of other gay men and women. Out of no where they started calling me a “Battyboy” repeatedly… 

I can only imagine that the reason they focused on us were because we were black and they were black because as far as I could tell they had said nothing to the other gays and lesbians of different races all around us. And who the fuck comes to SoHo to be homophobic?! 

I turned around and started to walk in their direction when Meryl literally jumped in my way and spun me around. Now I’m not the type of person to scuffle in the street…anymore. I used to be scrappier in my younger days while living in DC and got into it defending friends on a number of occasions. Meryl had to remind me that I’m an immigrant and a student with too much to loose to be getting arrested for fighting in the streets with some random dudes.

I guess I just….I never understood how people think they can open up their mouths and say anything to people on the street they don’t know or have never met. Explain to me what you get out of shouting epithets at random people? Personally, I go about my life giving not a single fuck about your existence, why are you so invested in mine? In any case, thanks to Mer I avoided lock-up, yet again and we went on to have a fantastic night.  

It’s a reminder that just because Gaga sings “born this way”, gays get the right to marry and laws are passed to help prevent the LGBT community from being brutalized that we’ve fixed it all. There’s still a lot of work left for us to do…and by “us” I mean those of “us” who are determined to live in a world where a person of any gender, race, sexuality, ethnicity, religious practice or nationality can walk down the street without having to endure and defend themselves against ignorance being hurled at them….

 (HRC Staffer Ben Shallenberger and me when I was working for HRC)

Jul 17
Last night Meryl stopped me from getting into a fight…
  • Meryl: if its a big deal, dont worry about it. i know you have enough on ur mind. "how do I fit 30 pairs of shoes into this suitcase?" "where do I store my fur?" " how drunk am I getting tonight before i leave for the airport tomorrow?"
  • Me: you make my life sound so trivial and fabulous all at once....if the law thing doesn't work out, you can be my biographer....
  • Later that day...........................
  • Me: Yeah so running around today I forgot all my clothes were at the dry cleaners....
  • Meryl: damn......see, this is what happens when you do for others. Serves u right for disrupting the earth's order by being giving and selfless, lol
  • Me: Never again....
Sep 1
On Favors before Traveling: